Comments on: The Facebook Un-Friend http://www.tryingnottobneg.com/2009/04/the-facebook-un-friend/ I try not to be negative, but with it running through my veins I really wonder if I have any choice. Mon, 16 Jan 2012 20:08:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Cindy Cotte Griffiths http://www.tryingnottobneg.com/2009/04/the-facebook-un-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Cindy Cotte Griffiths Fri, 17 Apr 2009 04:47:00 +0000 http://tryingnottobneg.wordpress.com/2009/04/03/the-facebook-un-friend/#comment-22 It's true that my number has fluctuated down and I couldn't tell who was gone. Since I wrote the post I noticed a few others.<br /><br />I agree with your son that you should never say anything in person. However my friends' son was unfriended and when he talked about it with the friend, the other person thought he had unfriended. They were close so they realized it was just a glitch. The message is a good idea.<br /><br />I have my privacy settings the same for everyone except for someone who decided to block his status from me. I did the same but haven't blocked his wife. I don't miss his getting drunker by the minute status updates when he goes out with old buddies. He probably is wise to block his status.<br /><br />My friends often talk about what is going on in Facebook -- follow up on status or links. In this way it helps strengthen those friendships. Interesting to hear the younger generation doesn't discuss it. It all comes down to how important you believe Facebook to be. It’s true that my number has fluctuated down and I couldn’t tell who was gone. Since I wrote the post I noticed a few others.

I agree with your son that you should never say anything in person. However my friends’ son was unfriended and when he talked about it with the friend, the other person thought he had unfriended. They were close so they realized it was just a glitch. The message is a good idea.

I have my privacy settings the same for everyone except for someone who decided to block his status from me. I did the same but haven’t blocked his wife. I don’t miss his getting drunker by the minute status updates when he goes out with old buddies. He probably is wise to block his status.

My friends often talk about what is going on in Facebook — follow up on status or links. In this way it helps strengthen those friendships. Interesting to hear the younger generation doesn’t discuss it. It all comes down to how important you believe Facebook to be.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.tryingnottobneg.com/2009/04/the-facebook-un-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Anonymous Fri, 17 Apr 2009 04:35:00 +0000 http://tryingnottobneg.wordpress.com/2009/04/03/the-facebook-un-friend/#comment-21 In my experience the fact that a person is no longer on your friends list becomes less noticeable the more friends you have. I've occasionally notice the # go down and can't figure out who left - not that I'd spend much time on that. Now that there are over 200 - I'm not so sure I want many more - so I'm seriously thinking about all those suggestions I get from old high school friends - when I only remember the person's name and not much else. Although I've separated friends into lists - I don't yet have each list with different privacy settings. My kids have told me it's not cool to notice or to actually talk about what's going on on fb in person. If you can't see her page at all, then you've been unfriended - either accidentally or on purpose. If you want to be in touch you can send a message on fb without being friends. After a couple of back & forths you might want to send a new friend request and see what happens. In my experience the fact that a person is no longer on your friends list becomes less noticeable the more friends you have. I've occasionally notice the # go down and can't figure out who left – not that I'd spend much time on that. Now that there are over 200 – I'm not so sure I want many more – so I'm seriously thinking about all those suggestions I get from old high school friends – when I only remember the person's name and not much else. Although I've separated friends into lists – I don't yet have each list with different privacy settings. My kids have told me it's not cool to notice or to actually talk about what's going on on fb in person. If you can't see her page at all, then you've been unfriended – either accidentally or on purpose. If you want to be in touch you can send a message on fb without being friends. After a couple of back & forths you might want to send a new friend request and see what happens.

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